Relationships: Overcoming Bitterness

I found this scripture so enlightening and freeing a few years ago when dealing with bitterness towards others had not lived up to my own expectations.

"And the LORD had regard for Abel and his offering, but for Cain and his offering he had no regard. So Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell. The LORD said to Cain, "Why are you angry, and why has your countenance fallen (ie. why are you depressed)? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is (a demon) crouching at the door; its desire is for you, but you must master it." -GEN 4:4-7.

I've found that depression, anger and bitterness are inherently linked. Often brought on by feelings of injustice, envy or hurt. The challenge is for each of us to take responsibility ourselves to overcome this crippling mind set - (like taking head-on the demon that crouches at the door of your mind that is blocking the doorway that will let you outside to freedom).

The only way to move forward is by making a decsion to forgive - to give up our petty claims of justice against others. Let God be judge. To realise that as people we are all fallible - and not to put too high expectations on to others - friends, family, church, pastors etc. People will always fail us. Great and good people will both love us and hurt us on a daily basis- but that's part of living with and as a human. Ultimately, its only God that is capable of not letting us down.

Its not easy and it takes time - forgiveness is a process.

I have also realised as easliy as I get hurt and need to forgive -I can hurt others. I love my wife, I care for her, provide for her - but in an instant can turn around and with a quick tongue hurt her to the core. Thank God she is gracious.

Life only works when we learn live with an attitude of both Grace and Forgiveness. Its the cornerstone for getting on with people.